Sex and Dominance
"It must be soo hot, just forcing a guy, making him suck it and swallow and then cum all over himself."
That was my girlfriend's friend talking, when she heard that we seduced a young straight athlete together.
I made it pretty clear that while he probably wouldn't have been willing at the beginning of the evening, we didn't just force him, we gradually coaxed him to be opened to the idea, and let him and his sexual arousal make the decision. No force, no struggling.
A lot of people have force-fantasies, either forcing or being forced, but there's a really big difference between a fantasy and a reality. A lot of people have been forced into some kind of sex, and it's usually not a good experience. The worst is ****, and it's really sad when a person's first exposure to sex is ****, and even worse if they feel branded somehow. I know people who consider themselves gay or bi, but they were a victim of same sex ****, and I wonder if they just feel forced into that sexuality becuase of the crime.
Beween consenting partners, force and even **** fantasies can be a great thing, beucase they're fantasies, and people have to be clear that it's consensual role play.
There's also a greyer area. I've been forced to try things by partners and sometimes they are things I've begun to enjoy. But it's not the same magnitiure as ****, usually an over zealous lover. It can be upsetting but it's nowehre near the same kind of trauma as really being taken agaisnt one's will.
There's also that "one step too far" kind of thing, usually when we're young and sexually inexperienced and not in great control of our own sexuality, and just get carried away by the heat of the moment. When we're teenagers and it's all a mystery, it's easy to push a partner a little too far out of their comfort zone, or allow yourself to get pushed out there. Or be so turned on you end up pushing yourself into something you wish you didn't do. When these thigns have happened to me I've felt they're learning expereinces. Usually, I was a little uncomfortable about them, but felt ok about them after a while. Nearly every early sex-experiement with a friend when I was young falls into this category (showing my penis to the girl down the street, masturbating and ejaculating on a dare for some friends to watch, letting a boy put his mouth around my penis the first time and suck, licking pussy the first time.. Pretty much EVERY early sexual expereince!).
But women also seem much more turned on by sex that involved overpowering and subjugating a sex partner. I'm not sure why that is. I'm more interested in sexual control and pleasure, even with BDSM. The restraint and punishment is all for intensifying the pleasures of the sub, and myself, in a way that you can't do otherwise. My girl, and other women I've known, really seem to get more of a turnon either by overpowering a sex paertner to the point where they break and surrender, or they want to be overpowered and feel possessed and less human.
What do you think?
That was my girlfriend's friend talking, when she heard that we seduced a young straight athlete together.
I made it pretty clear that while he probably wouldn't have been willing at the beginning of the evening, we didn't just force him, we gradually coaxed him to be opened to the idea, and let him and his sexual arousal make the decision. No force, no struggling.
A lot of people have force-fantasies, either forcing or being forced, but there's a really big difference between a fantasy and a reality. A lot of people have been forced into some kind of sex, and it's usually not a good experience. The worst is ****, and it's really sad when a person's first exposure to sex is ****, and even worse if they feel branded somehow. I know people who consider themselves gay or bi, but they were a victim of same sex ****, and I wonder if they just feel forced into that sexuality becuase of the crime.
Beween consenting partners, force and even **** fantasies can be a great thing, beucase they're fantasies, and people have to be clear that it's consensual role play.
There's also a greyer area. I've been forced to try things by partners and sometimes they are things I've begun to enjoy. But it's not the same magnitiure as ****, usually an over zealous lover. It can be upsetting but it's nowehre near the same kind of trauma as really being taken agaisnt one's will.
There's also that "one step too far" kind of thing, usually when we're young and sexually inexperienced and not in great control of our own sexuality, and just get carried away by the heat of the moment. When we're teenagers and it's all a mystery, it's easy to push a partner a little too far out of their comfort zone, or allow yourself to get pushed out there. Or be so turned on you end up pushing yourself into something you wish you didn't do. When these thigns have happened to me I've felt they're learning expereinces. Usually, I was a little uncomfortable about them, but felt ok about them after a while. Nearly every early sex-experiement with a friend when I was young falls into this category (showing my penis to the girl down the street, masturbating and ejaculating on a dare for some friends to watch, letting a boy put his mouth around my penis the first time and suck, licking pussy the first time.. Pretty much EVERY early sexual expereince!).
But women also seem much more turned on by sex that involved overpowering and subjugating a sex partner. I'm not sure why that is. I'm more interested in sexual control and pleasure, even with BDSM. The restraint and punishment is all for intensifying the pleasures of the sub, and myself, in a way that you can't do otherwise. My girl, and other women I've known, really seem to get more of a turnon either by overpowering a sex paertner to the point where they break and surrender, or they want to be overpowered and feel possessed and less human.
What do you think?
13 years ago
